To do this, you will have to have Permission first, from yourself, or from any higher authority that might support you in this.   Then you will need to set aside a Place where you can go and not be bothered.  Make a sanctuary in any place you spend a lot of time, like home or work.  Don’t use this space for anything other than these moments of adjustment and self-care.  Let people know ahead of time that if they violate your sanctuary, step or talk into that space, you will have to stay alone there longer to get calmed down.  If you can’t get away to this place (as when you’re driving in a car, or in a group, or sitting in a restaurant), change your Posture or Position:  for example, stand up, turn away or turn around, and if you can’t, close your mouth and raise your index finger between your eyes and those of the person you are talking with.  If you are driving, pull the car over and stop. If you are talking on the phone, politely but firmly hang up.  These things send a signal to yourself and others that you are turning your day around.

Mentally take yourself out of the present situation, and imagine yourself in a calm, quiet, isolated, naturally beautiful spot, one where you’ve been before, or one where you just imagine, either way.  In your mind’s eye, in the theater of your imagination, try to sense the sights, sounds, smells, and physical sensations around you.  Relaxing your body and clearing your mind will help you focus on the next stage of the 180.

Imagine different beliefs about the person or people that were giving you problems.  See them as more human, with their own needs and weaknesses, and hurt feelings.  See yourself as having more powers, rights, support, and options than you thought you had before.

Be Positive with your body language and tone of voice, especially with a smile.  Be Practical, by doing things that need to be done, things that will make you and others feel better about you for doing them.  Be Pro-active by saying and doing things without needing or caring how people respond.  Say and do things that are worth saying and doing, and make it clear that you are feeling good about your choices, no matter how others feel or act.